God grant you the light in Christmas, which is faith;
the warmth of Christmas, which is love;
the radiance of Christmas, which is purity;
the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice;
the belief in Christmas, which is truth;
& all of Christmas, which is Christ.
--Wilda English

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Sunday Morning

"...Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you."
Hebrews 13:5

Sometimes I feel a little sad when I think of friends who just a short time ago were very close to me but now I rarely if ever (in most cases never) hear from them.  

I've heard it said that people come into your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime.  In my 57 years upon this earth I have definitely seen this happen in my own life many, many times.
  
When someone is in your life for a reason, they are usually there to meet some sort of need that you have.  You might be going through an experience that this same person has successfully gone through & they are brought into your life to show you the way through it.  You might just need a sympathetic ear to listen to you talk about a disappointment you are dealing with & this person is brought into your life to do just that.  You may be searching for the meaning in something going on in your life & this person is brought into your life to help you find it.   Perhaps you are searching for some kind of answer & God sends this person into your life to give it to you.  These people appear in your life as if they are a light at the end of a very dark tunnel.  They listen to you, they help you, they are there for you ... & then suddenly they are gone.  You can't quite put your finger on what happened but what happened is this ... they have completed their job.  They were there for you when you needed them & now they are no longer needed.  They have gone on to help someone else.  Sometimes it hurts to lose them but they have been, in effect, an angel that God has sent your way to help you along the path of life.  If you look back over the years you might even see where God has used you in this same way.  He has brought you into someone else's life for just a very short time ... just for a particular reason ... & then He drew you down another path.     

Then there are the people who come into your life for a season.  I must admit that these people are difficult for me to understand.  I have (had) one friend in particular who I think fits in this category.  We met & clicked immediately.  We had many things in common, laughed together until our stomachs hurt, exchanged lengthy emails every day & called each other on the phone.  Then suddenly some things occurred in her life that really shouldn't have gotten in the way of our friendship but it seems as though they did.  First my emails weren't answered for days ... then weeks.  Then I'd get an email from her asking how I've been doing & explaining that she has been oh-so busy with various things ... yet she would often post on Facebook that she was having a "boring day," that she had "nothing to do," etc.  When I would answer her email to tell her how I've been doing, I wouldn't hear from her again for several weeks.  This was really hurting me for a while but then I realized she was apparently in my life just for a season.  When I look back in my life I can see other people who were also just "seasonal friends."  They were all a special part of my life but they are gone & when I realized they were gone it was very painful.  I wonder about them from time to time ... what has happened in their lives.  I hope they are all doing well.  

Then there are the people who are in your life for a lifetime.  There people perhaps baffle me most of all.  I am a pretty good person but I have gone through some things in my life that have caused me to be at one time or another rather ... oh goodness, what word shall I use ... "difficult?"  I've had some pretty lousy things happen to me in the past which have pushed me into such deep depression that I just could not see the good in anything.  Some of my poor friends just couldn't take dealing with me anymore & ran quickly away from me during those times & I can't say I blame them.  However, I have friends who were always there for me & still are.  They listened to me complain & moan & cry & ramble on & on ... talking nonsense really because I couldn't see things clearly.  Things I suppose I needed to do in order to get through the hellishness of those times.  There were occasions during these times when I was not even very nice to these people ... but they are still here!  They stood by me & loved me & did what they could to help me even though they may have been having problems in their own lives.  Oh how I treasure them!  They are priceless! 

I suppose when all is said & done every friend who comes into our life is precious in some way be they there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.  Still, it always hurts when you lose a friend.  This is why I chose the quote I chose today.  God tells us He will never leave us or forsake us.  How wonderful is that!                    

6 comments:

vwestermeyer said...

what a lovely post. I agree so much with all that you wrote and this made me think about some of those friends that were season ones.

Angela said...

Good Afternoon Shirlee, what a great way to define friendship, should I say in it's different stages? I really don't think people today take "friendship" in general the way we were taught as children growing up. I was taught the true meaning of being a friend and being there for that person, not just "calling" an aquaintance a friend. I think we all have had friends enter our lives for various reasons , those who were seasonal, and those who are beside us no matter what life throws our way. I constantly pause and look at my own life and often ask if I am the very best friend I can possibly be to those around me. It is a give and take relationship among two people. With some the rewards are wonderful and with some they end up as memories, some good and some bad. But it is so true, we never have to be alone. God is always there for us and accepts us for who and what we are. A true friend indeed. Thanks for such an inspiring post. Hoping you are having a great Sunday
Angela

Trace4J said...

You are right friend!
How wonderful it is to know God is there always no matter what..Even when Im kinda ugly..
Have great sunday friend.
Hugs Trace

P.s Count me in on the ornament exchange!

renee said...

Yes, you are right. Sometimes, it's like that. Some friends come and go, some you chat with from time to time, some you see all the time.
I always try to be available, but sometimes it's hard to find the balance.
It was nice to read this post, it helps to reflect.
Blessings,
Renee

jennifer768 said...

Hi Shirlee , this is a great post.You have a wonderful way of looking at things.The greatest friend we have is God and no he will never leave us.Thanks for sharing and giving me a new way of looking at friendship.Have a blessed evening,Jen

Vickie said...

You are a very wise woman Shirlee. No, really. I thank you for this post.♥